So The Bi Apple didn't win
last night, but we had sex so that cushioned the blow (okay, having sex last night had nothing to do with the awards, but I'm trying to make meaningless connections here so bear with me).
On another positive side of groundbreaking, one of the other cool things about being in that movie is that it featured real-life couples like us (and my partner just happened to also come in handy for a guy-guy scene in addition to the one we did together ;-). I feel like pointing out that we met each other over six years ago; in September we'll have been living together for that many years. Since I was ranting about conservative attitudes towards sexuality, I feel like pointing out that as more-than-BIsexuals, as pornographers, as people with spycams, and as people who sometimes have sex with other people we have, I think, an enviably solid relationship. On top of all of those things that conservative people would consider threats to a healthy relationship, my partner doesn't identify as the same gender she presented as when I met him. Suck on that! And yes, I'm messing with her pronouns on purpose.
The funny part is that I feel like our relationship IS pretty conservative; I don't feel like our lives are wild and crazy at all. If all of those alternative-lifestyle-sounding labels fell off of us or were invisible to people, I think the the average conservative couple would look at us as shining examples of what a long-term relationship (or marriage, even though we're not) should be. But happier.
I feel like we have all of the best parts of an old-fashioned relationship; we run our own little business together and have probably spent MAYBE 30 nights apart from each other TOPS since we've been living together. It's not that we don't like spending time alone (we do that too), but we are pretty tight when the end of the day rolls around. I'm not saying our relationship has been without challenges, just that the assumptions many people would make about the health of our relationship based on our sexual preferences, gender identities, and work are probably a lot different from the reality (the reality being that we have the best, most normal, and healthiest relationship of almost every couple I know).
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Labels: gender issues, hormones, my trans partner, relationships, SEX, sociopolitical commentary, thanksgiving, values